My first vile comment from a Trump supporter

The comment was in response to a recent blog post in which I offered advice on what to do if you use the wrong pronouns for me. The full comment is below, unaltered in any way. I don’t think I need to add any commentary: It really speaks volumes without my assistance.

{content warning: hate speech, transphobic language, ableist language}




I think no change that to I know that Ost people on this blog have serious

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an example of some therapeutic bullshit that trans folks encounter

This morning I read a book chapter by someone named Harriette Kaley, who is apparently a therapist in New York. The chapter is called “An unpublishable paper,” and it’s about a paper Kaley wrote about a transgender client. When she showed the paper to “Lee,” the client, Lee hated the paper and didn’t want it published. So instead of publishing the paper, Kaley made the perplexing decision to write a diffferent chapter about how “wrenching” it was to … Read more

A privilege-based view of mindfulness: Ellen Langer, “On Being”

I was listening today to a recent episode of “On Being” about a topic that’s fairly vexed for me: The question of mindfulness.

There are many reasons why mindfulness is a vexed topic for me. Most importantly, mindfulness makes me excruciatingly uncomfortable. I’ve written on this blog and elsewhere about my own body dysphoria, which makes “being present” in my body an anxiety-riddled endeavor. Also, though, I don’t really like how a lot of white folks talk about mindfulness. As … Read more

How I deal with pronouns in my classes

This post is in response to a recent New York Times article by Elizabeth Reis. The article, “pronoun privilege,” argues against having people say their name and pronouns when they introduce themselves in class. Reis writes:

I find the exercise discomfiting, but not because I don’t want to know the students’ pronouns. It’s because this ice-breaking ritual, in my experience, is easy only for those for whom the answer is obvious. It can “out” or isolate others, particularly

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What to do if you use the wrong pronouns for me

Update, 8/10/16: I’ve received a few requests to use this blog post in workplace trainings or classrooms. I’m delighted that people are finding my writing useful, and I’d be thrilled if people circulated it to others who might find it helpful. I’ve converted this post into Word documents–one that retains all the original content, and one with the content reshaped and the curse words removed, for people who work or teach in contexts where swearing is inappropriate. Two Read more

How to make like an ally: The “standing up against transphobic bathroom bills” edition

I want you to understand how terrible public restrooms are for me.

For almost my entire life, I exclusively used women’s restrooms. Within the last few years, as my appearance has become more masculine, I’ve had multiple uncomfortable encounters. I’ve experienced this a few dozen times: A woman walking in while I was at the sink, stopping in her tracks and staring at me, and backing slowly out of the bathroom to look at the sign and make sure she … Read more

AERA screws up (again) on gender inclusivity

“In addition to using gender demographics for membership and research purposes, the expanded and enhanced gender categories send a message of inclusion to individuals of all gender identities within the Association,” said AERA Executive Director Felice J. Levine.

Let’s look at what AERA, the American Educational Research Association, thinks will send a message of inclusion to individuals of all gender identities within the Association. Now when you become a member of AERA or renew your membership, you’ll be met with … Read more

A quick primer on queer theory and the heterosexual matrix

Let’s talk about the fiction of the gender binary.

This fiction is pretty simple: There’s a story our culture tells us about identity. This story convinces us that gender is an either/or proposition. Your options in the drop-down gender box are to mark 1 for male, 0 for female. There are no other options. There is nothing in between. There is nothing off to one side. There isn’t even an “other” or “not applicable” box to mark.

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All education is civics education: A meditation on electoral politics

I teach college.

That’s a thing I do, and it’s also the biggest and most important piece of my professional identity. Because I was a PhD student, and then a PhD candidate, and then a person with a PhD, I am very aware that my first identity is supposed to focus on my scholarship, and my second or possibly my third is supposed to be about my teaching.

Eff that. Teaching is the most important thing I do. It’s also … Read more

It’s time for the Learning Sciences to embrace queer & trans* theory.

IDK if you knew that I have a PhD in Education. More specifically, my PhD came from a Learning Sciences program, so I’m technically a learning scientist.

I have a very complicated and fraught relationship with the Learning Sciences–a field that has been extraordinarily slow to integrate the concerns of queer and trans* folk, and even slower to integrate queer and trans* theory–frameworks designed explicitly to account for and investigate queer and trans* concerns, experiences, and lives. Imagine being … Read more